jhunz23 wrote:i think having children give you purpose
if you have other meaningful purpose (other than having money) --then that will pre occupy you or gives you a sense to live
before when i was in my 20s i said to myself, i dont want to have kids
now im in my mid 30s ---i envy those who have kids --- life became more meaningful to them
its not just about themselves, its about their kids, and molding another human being under your care.
closeted bis of my contemporaries are constantly just about finding a partner (good luck in finding faithful one), making themselves fit ---but honestly i found it so meaningless.
they have a good careers but sometimes you ask ... is that it?! there's gotta to be more than that?!
i reached the point that i am in plateau. everything became just a repeated cycle.
i want to have kids
hope God will give me or provide me a wife.
stupid_jerk wrote:First off, this is posted here in the CHITCHAT LOUNGE because it is unrelated to pageants so for those who are wondering this thread exists here, it's because I know there are also some of us who have the same 'fears'.
So here I go...
I have been reading and watching a lot of books and videos lately about growing old single... and it is almost killing me.
In my position right now, (although I'm not yet in my 30s) I honestly don't think I'll ever get married. My parents are already almost 70. I am an only child(who unfortunately is a closeted gay), and I'm far from Joel Cruz who can afford the luxury of paying for a surrogate.
I wish I had nieces and nephews living near me however that won't happen as they all live in the province.
As humans were created to be social beings, I feel like a loser because I am a very reserved and quiet person which tells you that I have a very small circle of friends.
Lately, I have been bugged down by the idea of 'What will happen to me when I grow old?'
I am scared to lose my parents, moreso scared of being on my own and living life alone. 'Who will take care of me?' and 'How will I go about life?'
These are some of the things that I fear right now and I am even planning to see a Psychologist about this... but for some people here, do you also think of these? How are you guys managing it? and What can you suggest I do?
I appreciate your responses. Misso has been an amazing getaway for me and would love to hear your thoughts.
Thank you.
stupid_jerk wrote:jhunz23 wrote:i think having children give you purpose
if you have other meaningful purpose (other than having money) --then that will pre occupy you or gives you a sense to live
before when i was in my 20s i said to myself, i dont want to have kids
now im in my mid 30s ---i envy those who have kids --- life became more meaningful to them
its not just about themselves, its about their kids, and molding another human being under your care.
closeted bis of my contemporaries are constantly just about finding a partner (good luck in finding faithful one), making themselves fit ---but honestly i found it so meaningless.
they have a good careers but sometimes you ask ... is that it?! there's gotta to be more than that?!
i reached the point that i am in plateau. everything became just a repeated cycle.
i want to have kids
hope God will give me or provide me a wife.
Same thought that I have. I guess the only option is to force myself to marry and try to have my wife bear a child for us...
Maanjit_Xia wrote:It’s normal to have these thoughts and to be afraid. You can’t, however, get into a relationship or have children just for the sake of doing so. Everything should come naturally, develop organically.
You don’t have control over other people and can’t force them to be with you in whatever way. However, you do have control over yourself — and that’s the bigggest opportunity you have to make your future a bright one. Just focus on being the best self you can be: keep praying & ask for guidance, keep learning, keep improving yourself, be kind, be considerate to others, and be altruistic, and everything will fall into place.
Your future might end up not being what you expect, but it will be what God has prepared for you.
jhunz23 wrote:this is so inspiring guys ....
(help me to post the article
Super Sireyna Queen Sabel Gonzales now living as a man
Super Sireyna Queen of Flowers 2014 Sabel Gonzales has resumed his male identity, Mark Estephen.
A report on 24 Oras on Saturday said that Estephen made the transformation after discovering true happiness through God.
In a series of Facebook posts, Estephen said that only God can change him and that he has found "real freedom, love, equality, respect, and acceptance."
"It’s 2018, and I found my true happiness in life from Our Lord Jesus Christ. Only God can [bring] change to you and to me... so accept and follow Jesus now as our savior and repent from our sins. He is the only way, the truth and the life to be with the Father and to be in heaven," he said.
"I am free and I found my real FREEDOM, LOVE, EQUALITY, RESPECT , and ACCEPTANCE for being who I am and what I am because of JESUS!!" he added in a separate post.
In a series of Facebook posts, Estephen said that only God can change him and that he has found "real freedom, love, equality, respect, and acceptance."
"It’s 2018, and I found my true happiness in life from Our Lord Jesus Christ. Only God can [bring] change to you and to me... so accept and follow Jesus now as our savior and repent from our sins. He is the only way, the truth and the life to be with the Father and to be in heaven," he said.
"I am free and I found my real FREEDOM, LOVE, EQUALITY, RESPECT , and ACCEPTANCE for being who I am and what I am because of JESUS!!" he added in a separate post.
https://www.gmanetwork.com/news/lifesty ... man/story/
Former Super Sireyna winner now lives as a man: "God changed me."
Ikinagulat at ikinatuwa ng lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) community ang pag-anunsiyo ng Super Sireyna Queen of Flowers winner na si Sabel Gonzales na siya ay nagbabalik-loob na sa pagiging lalaki.
Si Sabel ay kilala sa gay community bilang "Julia Barretto" at ito rin ang screen name na gamit niya nang sumali sa tanyag na pakontes ng noontime show na Eat Bulaga, ang Super Sireyna Queen of Flowers, noong 2014.
Ang Super Sireyna ay beauty contest para sa gays at trans women.
Si Sabel din ang kumatawan sa Pilipinas sa Miss International Queen 2017 sa Pattaya, Thailand.
Nakapasok siya sa Top 10, ngunit ang nakapag-uwi ng korona ay ang transgender candidate mula sa host country.
BACK TO MARK. Kasabay ng pagbabalik bilang isang lalaki ay ang paggamit na niya ng kanyang tunay na pangalan—Mark Estephen.
Sa kanyang Facebook account noong Martes, January 23, sinabi ni Mark na nahanap niya ang totoong kaligayahan sa buhay sa pamamagitan ng pagbabalik-loob sa Poong Maykapal.
Mensahe ni Mark, “It’s 2018, and I found my true happiness in life from Our Lord Jesus Christ.
“Only God can change to you and to me... So accept and follow Jesus now as our savior and repent from our sins.
“He is the only way , the truth and the life to be with the Father and to be in heaven.”
Bumuhos naman ang suporta at positibong komento mula sa kanyang friends at followers sa Facebook.
Sagot ni Mark sa kanila: “Thank you for all the support. Only God can changed us.
“God is transforming me for His will in my life and I know that I was born as a man, that’s the creation of God…
“I realized that I just created an idol in my own desire but not God’s desire. Now, I surrender my life to Him. All glory to God.”
Si Mark ay mula sa Anda, Pangasinan, at nakatira ngayon sa Arizona, USA.
“GOD CHANGED ME.” Tinanong ng isang follower si Mark kung bakit siya nagbago, at kung mayroon ba siyang problema.
Tugon dito ni Mark, “God changed me. He is the only one who can change us for His will.
"His love for us is eternal and everlasting. I’m just doing the right thing in my life with His guidance.
"Now, that I know the truth and following Jesus in my life, it’s a new life, new creation of God, it’s not my own desire anymore but it’s a God’s desire for my life.
"(John 14 :6) 'Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.'
"To accept Jesus Christ as our savior and declare that He is our Lord, to confess our sins, ask forgiveness, to repent, surrender our life to Him and to obey His commandments, and we will be SAVED."
Sa ngayon, nahanap na raw niya ang tunay na kalayaan.
Aniya, “I am free and I found my real FREEDOM, LOVE, EQUALITY, RESPECT , and ACCEPTANCE for being who I am and what I am because of JESUS!”
Hindi pa sumailalim sa sex reassignment surgery si Mark.
https://www.pep.ph/news/69357/former-su ... svZlpBa.99
stupid_jerk wrote:I really appreciate your thoughts guys.
It may be tough and I guess I'm still at the stage where I'm still trying to stop worrying but your words (some harsh/straightforward and some very sympathetic) are somehow comforting.
Hope I get over this and go back to my usual happy thoughts.
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