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Re: Long Distance Relationships

Postby chapfallen » Sat Nov 13, 2010 12:17 am

    

i don't want to be a debbie downer but i'm not really into long distance relationships. i was dating this person before i migrated to another country. for a year, we would talk to each other everyday via skype or y!m or what not. but when i came back for a surprise visit, everything changed. i realized our "thing" wasn't right. it wasn't him though, it was me (drama much? lol) but yeah, i guess good communication is really the key to make long distance relationships last. :=p


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Re: Long Distance Relationships

Postby ate deedee » Sat Nov 13, 2010 12:52 am




Hi Beebee,

I am assuming that you fished out your "guy" from the online dating sites.

Long distance relationship or shall we say "virtual love affair" is the same as face to face albeit the physical presence happening in real time. Some people would say the intensity of excitement is much greater online than face to face. Imagination runs wild if one of the senses is not applicable during virtual interactions such as sense of touch. The sense of touch is compensated by the "thinking" that the other party is equally and holistically stimulating. Virtual lovers are not far different from others because there is an element of communication, visual correspondence, and sometimes sexual activities or innuendos. With constant communications, both parties can build whatever relationship they aim for. When mutual understanding kicks in, then it waves the red flags that something is bound to happen. SOME EXPERTS SAY THAT VIRTUAL LOVERS WHO BECAME REAL LOVERS ARE FAR MORE SATISFIED IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE THEY WERE ABLE TO ESTABLISH TRUST AND LOVE TO BEGIN WITH AMIDST DISTANCE AND OTHER BARRIERS.

But always remember that "Life is not always a bed of roses".
Everything on earth we need to invest time, love, money, & effort to get a return of our investments.
It's always a gamble. Sometimes we lose, sometimes we win. GOODLUCK !!! :hx

Some no-brainer tips of having a good virtual relationship of any kind:

1. No money involved
2. Pictures are evil, be discerning
3. Beware of flight of thoughts, liar, liar, liar
4. Read between the lines, the truth is never revealed
5. Beware of sexcam, smile you are on candid camera
6. Do not expect too much, Cinderella story is long dead
7. Be yourself. Pretentions are toxic.
8. Honesty is always the best policy
9. Talk about your experience with friends
10. On your first date, be nice and cordial


Yours truly,
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Re: Long Distance Relationships

Postby Edwin » Sat Nov 13, 2010 1:34 am

I been into long distance relationship 4 times
1st--nung pagbalik ko ng pinas..i want to surprised him
Pero ako ang na schoked sila na pala ng best friend niya.
Manila to naga - naga to manila agad ang biyahe ko..
2nd- i gave up my career..naghanap ako ng work sa pinas
2 years away bati..i decided na mag work uli sa U.S
Pagbakasyon ko ng pinas.surprise ko sana..ako ang na
Surprise..yung bahay na kinuha niya na para sa amin iba
Na ang kasama niya..yung ni loan sa bahay..inutang ko pa sa sss..
3rd- 10 years younger sa akin mabait at sweet..mahal niya ako
Ng sobra..pero di ko siya ganun ka mahal..tinulungan ko pa
Din siya mag abroad ako ang nag bayad ng placement fee niya
Until now araw araw siya nag send ng message sa akin..
4th--nakilala ko siya 10 years ago..nahanap niya ako sa fb.humiram ng pera
Halos 400 plus din naibigay ko..now nagpaparamdam nanaman ng paghingi..
Pero mahal ko siya ..

Ang tanong ko..sino ang dapat kong mahalin..
Ang mahal ako o yung mahal ko...!
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Re: Long Distance Relationships

Postby Miss Understood » Sat Nov 13, 2010 3:36 am

always make time to communicate.
i remember my officemate before her bf is living in the US they always webchat in yahoo during office hours hahaha
every week that guy sends flowers and chocolates to her i think thats so sweet..all of us in the office cant help but to envy everytime we see those bunch of red roses :">
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Re: Long Distance Relationships

Postby XAMURAI » Sat Nov 13, 2010 5:36 am

LDT--- It didn't work for me, but two of my previous roommates had LDT with their respective girlfriends then, and they eventually ended up marrying their partners! Now, they both have families of their own.
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Re: Long Distance Relationships

Postby hybrid » Sat Nov 13, 2010 5:45 am

Edwin wrote:I been into long distance relationship 4 times
1st--nung pagbalik ko ng pinas..i want to surprised him
Pero ako ang na schoked sila na pala ng best friend niya.
Manila to naga - naga to manila agad ang biyahe ko..
2nd- i gave up my career..naghanap ako ng work sa pinas
2 years away bati..i decided na mag work uli sa U.S
Pagbakasyon ko ng pinas.surprise ko sana..ako ang na
Surprise..yung bahay na kinuha niya na para sa amin iba
Na ang kasama niya..yung ni loan sa bahay..inutang ko pa sa sss..
3rd- 10 years younger sa akin mabait at sweet..mahal niya ako
Ng sobra..pero di ko siya ganun ka mahal..tinulungan ko pa
Din siya mag abroad ako ang nag bayad ng placement fee niya
Until now araw araw siya nag send ng message sa akin..
4th--nakilala ko siya 10 years ago..nahanap niya ako sa fb.humiram ng pera
Halos 400 plus din naibigay ko..now nagpaparamdam nanaman ng paghingi..
Pero mahal ko siya ..

Ang tanong ko..sino ang dapat kong mahalin..
Ang mahal ako o yung mahal ko...!


you know , it would have been perfect if you had answered in english.
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Re: Long Distance Relationships

Postby Miss Understood » Sun Nov 14, 2010 4:33 am

beebee wrote:
Miss Understood wrote:always make time to communicate.
i remember my officemate before her bf is living in the US they always webchat in yahoo during office hours hahaha
every week that guy sends flowers and chocolates to her i think thats so sweet..all of us in the office cant help but to envy everytime we see those bunch of red roses :">


hehe we always talk on skype messenger when he is at work and Im chilling out in the evening cause there I am 7 hours ahead!
Its nice cause if I have insomnia I can facebook him!!

Not had flowers yet :%(( lol


i think you just need to keep the spark glowing.
make it work.
trust and honesty also plays a big role.
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Re: Long Distance Relationships

Postby jamesparker » Tue Feb 08, 2011 11:18 am

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Re: Long Distance Relationships

Postby pageantfan_attic » Fri Feb 11, 2011 1:13 am

Hi beebee, dumaan na rin ako sa long distance relationship... nasa cebu ako siya nasa bataan...miminsan lang kaming magkita..binibisita nya ako sa cebu.. dito na rin xa nag birthday...mahirap kasi miminsan lang magkita pero araw araw kaming nagtetext. usap sa phone, ym, at kung anu ano pang paraan para makapag communicate.. he was on a review that time.. marine engineer kaya nasa barko ang work nya.. kaya xa naghahanap ng long distance relationship kasi nga nasa malayo xa always... ayun ok naman sa simula until I just felt something strange.. nagbago talaga...he tried to deny it but my feelings say otherwise... i gave him time so parang bale wala at first... ganun pa rin naman text text, tawag, update update sa mga bagay bagay but feeling ko may kulang.. prang di na nya gusto, parang out of compliance na lang... i was saddened about me thinking bad about him.. until such time i got the courage to ask...he cried..he apologized...naramdaman din nya kasing super akong nasaktan.. i was so true to him.. swear to god i never thought of cheating. not once... i was so trustworthy that i was so down feeling sorry about what happened parang feel ko di nya ako pinagkatiwalaan .. i blamed myself kasi nga alam ko, in a way, may mali din ako.. but he said he was to blame...masakit yung nagyari but i forgave him... he cheated, he chose to stay with the other person who is living near him and so i let him go..he talked to my mom and he apologized... that was what i liked about him he was so sweet.. i appreciate the gesture and courage to say sorry to my mom...so with no resentment we stayed friends.. nasa barko xa ngayon..masaya ako for him kasi unti unti na nyang tinutupad yung mga pangarap na minsan din naming pinagplanuhan... until now im single ang im happy about it.. im now extra cautious kasi minsan na akong nasaktan.. nakakatrauma din kaya.. hehehe .. pero ganun talaga eh.. life is also measured by the number of times you stand up after a big fall... (emo much) hahaha ... sana naman may nakuha ka sa kwento ko...
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Re: Long Distance Relationships

Postby pageantfan_attic » Fri Feb 11, 2011 1:18 am

Stephen wrote:LDT--- It didn't work for me, but two of my previous roommates had LDT with their respective girlfriends then, and they eventually ended up marrying their partners! Now, they both have families of their own.


hmmm...nakaroon na rin ako minsan.. di nga lang nagtagal... i don't consider it as "it didn't work for me" kasi minsan naging masaya din naman ako.. i will consider it as "It didn't last long" .. still thinking about having another LDR though.. just keeping the faith alive.. who knows...
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Re: Long Distance Relationships

Postby Myles76 » Thu Dec 31, 2015 1:56 am

..as been said already...LDR only works with very good communication to each other..lots of faith and trust on one another..but in the end..you want to be with your love one...so you have to decide either come together or break-up...LDR did not work for me ..
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Re: Long Distance Relationships

Postby Arduina » Sat Apr 09, 2016 8:53 pm

I know it's an old message but here are my two cents anyway :

I "met" this guy online (on a message board about a series I loved at the time, not a dating site) while I was living in the USA as an au-pair. He was in France and I still had a couple months to go before coming back home. We talked about lots of things. We laughed, we discovered we liked some things, we made the other one discover other things. He was there for me when my uncle died back home, just through his computer. He stayed up all night long to chat with me because of time difference.
When I came back in France he was one of the first person I met.
Even back in France we were far away. We kept on communicating (at the time internet deals were like 50 hours of connexion by month, imagine the horror :p ) (yeah I feel old :p ). We dated like that for a whole year. Only seeing each other like 3 times a year.
Then I moved to Paris to finish my studies and we were able to see each other more often because it only took a 3h train trip.

To make the story short : I was in the USA in 2001. We're in 2016. He is now my husband and the father of our daughter :)
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