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Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem

Postby Nand » Wed Jan 24, 2018 3:00 am

    

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Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem


Mumbai: The title of Miss India is touted to be synonymous with self-confidence, but former Miss India and actor Sobhita Dhulipala says the process of winning the crown ended up damaging her self-esteem. The 25-year-old actor said while growing up in Visakhapatnam she was an “uncool geek child, a loner” who had not watched more than 20 films, eight of which were from the Harry Potter magicverse.

Sobhita moved to Mumbai at the age of 16 to step out of her “quaint little city”. When she got admission in a “cool” college here, she appeared with “long oiled hair, floral embroidery dress, bindi and polka dot shirt.” The actor, who made her debut with Anurag Kashyap’s “Raman Raghav 2.0”, termed her college experience as “brutal” and that was when the need for “seeking validation” seeped in.

“My friend was interning at the Miss India office and asked me to go for an audition. I just wanted to clear one basic round to show it to my friends. ‘I’m in this mind space and I can do this, losers’. I cleared the first round and then I wanted to do more.

For the first time in my life, I was getting attention. I was very awkward with myself, I was so lame... But Miss India did more damage to my self-esteem. It took me more away from me because you’re reduced to someone who’s entertaining, who is pleasing,” Sobhita said in an interview. After winning the beauty pageant in 2013, the model- turned-actor represented India for Miss Earth the same year in the Philippines where she won the sub-titles of Miss Photogenic, Miss Beauty for a cause, Miss Talent and Miss Beautiful Face.

She said she struggled to find her real self as the lure of the Miss India tag kept confusing her. “Earlier, I would never focus on how I looked because I thought I was just ‘ok’. So, my focus was on being well-read, good in studies, school captain. My personality depended on what I read, not on some magical genetic thing. “In Miss India, so much was about how you looked. These are the things I judged as a child. So, I felt cornered because I was doing the same things. I didn’t feel good in my heart.”

Asked she continued being a part of something that made her uncomfortable, the actor said, “I wanted someone to make me feel desired, I thought may be guys will like me. I was 19, so validation played a huge role in my taking part in Miss India.


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Re: Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem

Postby gemsparks » Wed Jan 24, 2018 3:19 am

She should be grateful that she was not born in Taliban-infested Afghanistan
Majority of pageant critics firing scathingly remarks and unleashing vilest of comments to some candidates,ironically, are not even beautiful themselves aesthetically and worst characterwise.
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Re: Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem

Postby jhunz23 » Wed Jan 24, 2018 3:29 am

In deed pageant is not for everyone ...
but if you are entering and joining the pageant & you are buying to get the crown ... there is a principle which states "Caveat Emptor" or Buyer Beware ... Before entering know the risk and know the consequences ... do research and ask people about it ... if it damaged your self esteem ... there is therapy for that .. but i do not think that it is not the intention of the organizers to ruin self esteem .. but the opposite ... for empowerment and glamour & business at the same time. Just know how to play your cards.
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Re: Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem

Postby AaronICK » Wed Jan 24, 2018 4:51 am

Being in a toxic environment can damage your self-esteem, whether it is in a pageant or somewhere else.

In an office setting, the pressure is bigger.

But nothing can be worst if it is your family who's the source of that low self-esteem.

It is how you handle the situation and rise above the circumstances that will help you get through with this issue.

So make sure to surround yourself with people who will help you, who will uplift you and who will guide you towards self-love and confidence. And if your environment is the source, then be the inspiration needed to improve not just your self-esteem, but others as well.
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Re: Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem

Postby pineal » Wed Jan 24, 2018 8:32 am

It is quite clear that she came in expecting something else, I just hope that she had come a year or two later. Miss India organisation changed a lot after her year. During her year they had best legs subcontest, in which girl's faces and upper bodies were covered and they had to be judged only on the beauty of their legs. It must've been humiliating for a sensitive self-conscious person like her. And no wonder girls never use to retry their chance at Miss India back then, like they've started now. Who would want to revisit a bad experience. There is a documentary showing Miss India 2011 contest. The way Marc Robinson (then director) was talking about girls is egregious. The reason for India's success in 90s was the great staff MIO had, which steadily left during the 2000s and were not replaced with competent people. Thank God they have opened their eyes now, it's never too late. It's good to see Miss India slowly gaining it's influence back.
As for Shobhita, she is doing great, she was honored at Cannes film festival. And have several projects in the bag. She probably came in expecting something exactly like Miss World. I just hope she had an uplifting experience. Nonetheless, MIO should learn from her story and ensure an empowering experience to girls now.
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Re: Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem

Postby avadakedavra » Wed Jan 24, 2018 8:34 am

pineal wrote:It is quite clear that she came in expecting something else, I just hope that she had come a year or two later. Miss India organisation changed a lot after her year. [b]During her year they had best legs subcontest, in which girl's faces and upper bodies were covered and they had to be judged only on the beauty of their legs. It must've been humiliating for a sensitive self-conscious person like her. And no wonder girls never use to retry their chance at Miss India back then, like they've started now. Who would want to revisit a bad experience. There is a documentary showing Miss India 2011 contest. The way Marc Robinson (then director) was talking about girls is egregious. The reason for India's success in 90s was the great staff MIO had, which steadily left during the 2000s and were not replaced with competent people. Thank God they have opened their eyes now, it's never too late. It's good to see Miss India slowly gaining it's influence back.
As for Shobhita, she is doing great, she was honored at Cannes film festival. And have several projects in the bag. She probably came in expecting something exactly like Miss World. I just hope she had an uplifting experience. Nonetheless, MIO should learn from her story and ensure an empowering experience to girls now.[/b]


wow. This is definitely creepy. Like having best legs makes you the best girl... #:-S
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Re: Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem

Postby pineal » Wed Jan 24, 2018 8:43 am

avadakedavra wrote:
pineal wrote:It is quite clear that she came in expecting something else, I just hope that she had come a year or two later. Miss India organisation changed a lot after her year. [b]During her year they had best legs subcontest, in which girl's faces and upper bodies were covered and they had to be judged only on the beauty of their legs. It must've been humiliating for a sensitive self-conscious person like her. And no wonder girls never use to retry their chance at Miss India back then, like they've started now. Who would want to revisit a bad experience. There is a documentary showing Miss India 2011 contest. The way Marc Robinson (then director) was talking about girls is egregious. The reason for India's success in 90s was the great staff MIO had, which steadily left during the 2000s and were not replaced with competent people. Thank God they have opened their eyes now, it's never too late. It's good to see Miss India slowly gaining it's influence back.
As for Shobhita, she is doing great, she was honored at Cannes film festival. And have several projects in the bag. She probably came in expecting something exactly like Miss World. I just hope she had an uplifting experience. Nonetheless, MIO should learn from her story and ensure an empowering experience to girls now.[/b]


wow. This is definitely creepy. Like having best legs makes you the best girl... #:-S


It was like a sponsored title. Definitely creepy and what made it worse was the attitude of Marc, he said that it was always his fantasy to judge girls covered from head to belly and see who had the best legs. I've never met him, but the way he managed Miss India made me detest him. Ruhi Singh said something along the lines that she felt objectified and humiliated being treated like this, in the documentary. I think Ankita Shorey did too. I probably would've never followed pageants if this was still going on at MIO. Thank God for Natasha Grover.
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Re: Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem

Postby pineal » Wed Jan 24, 2018 10:48 am

There are others who cherish their experience

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Re: Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem

Postby goddessoxana27 » Wed Jan 24, 2018 3:07 pm

She needs divine intervention. Be grateful dear!
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Re: Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem

Postby manoypoe » Wed Jan 24, 2018 3:12 pm

ONE OF MY FAVE MISS INDIA.
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Re: Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem

Postby Nand » Sat Jan 27, 2018 4:03 am

pineal wrote:There are others who cherish their experience



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Re: Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem

Postby ajsy0203 » Sat Jan 27, 2018 5:45 am

I don't understand why the preliminary judges chose Lisa (China) over Sobhita (India) at Miss Earth 2013, we knew that Angelee, Catharina and Punika will make the first cut?
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Re: Miss India pageant damaged my self-esteem

Postby manoypoe » Sat Jan 27, 2018 7:31 am

ajsy0203 wrote:I don't understand why the preliminary judges chose Lisa (China) over Sobhita (India) at Miss Earth 2013, we knew that Angelee, Catharina and Punika will make the first cut?


LISA WAS GOOD. SHE DESERVED HER PLACEMENT. AFTER HER REIGN, SHE CONTINUES TO BE AN EARTH WARRIOR. UNTIL NOW I THINK ,SHE IS STILL ACTIVE ON ME'S ADVOCACY.
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